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Aadab for the New Muslim Family

by Ayesha Mazhar

Adab (Plural: Aadab) literally means respect and politeness or the way one behaves in a good way. It includes every noble characteristic, habit or trait that is included within the scope of adab. As Muslims, when the topic of adab is raised, we have to follow the best personality that ever walked on earth; Our beloved prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings upon him) who won hearts of even his enemies with his good manners.

On the Day when every person will be confronted with all the good he has done, and all the evil he has done, he will wish that there were a great distance between him and his evil.

— Surat Al-Imran, Verse 30

Sahaba used to follow every sunnah of Rasool Allah as a must but nowadays we ignore or leave it as it is optional. If we implement our Prophet’s sunnah in our daily lives, it will create a greater impact on our personalities not just as a Muslim but also as a human being. Here are the few guidelines to implement " Aadab" in our families.

1. SALAH:

Salah is the first thing that will be accounted on the day of judgment. So let’s practice offering our daily five prayers in time. Elders must make sure that all family members pray their obligatory prayers in time. Salah makes one humble and polite.

In addition, if we practice praying sunnah, it will be an added advantage to our deeds. Especially fajr prayer is difficult for those who can’t make it up to wake up early. However, if we maintain an early sleeping routine in our families, this will not be difficult to perform every morning.

After all, the early bird catches the worm!

Once the family starts practicing praying salat al-fajr, Quranic recitation and morning adhkaar, Allah will pour immense barakah in our lives, In sha Allah.

The Messenger (S.A.W.) told us in an authentic hadith , “The first thing the people will be accountable for on the Day of Judgment is prayer, Allah will say to His angels (even though he already knows) : “Look at my servants prayers. Were they complete or not?” If they were complete It will be written as complete. If they were not fully complete Allah will say: “See if my servant has voluntary prayers, If he has them Allah will say: Complete his obligatory prayers shortage with his voluntary prayers.” Then the rest of his deeds will be dealt with in the same manner.”

— Reported by Imams Ahmad, Abu Dawood, An-Nisa’i, and Al-Hakim

2. EAT HEALTHY:

Our Prophet has been a great role model in terms of living a simple life. He always advised Sahaba to eat what is healthy in little proportions. We all know prophet’s rule of 1/3 rd for solids, 1/3 rd for liquids and 1/3 rd for air. We need to implement this rule in our daily lives. This will help a person to maintain their weight, while also saving him from many diseases. We should also practice giving away leftover food to those in need.

Then, on that Day, you shall be asked about the delight (You indulged in, in this world).

— Surat Al-Takathir, Verse 8

3. GOOD MANNERS:

Prophet (S.A.W) stated, “I have only been sent to perfect good manners”. Our prophet used to show good manners to everyone, even to those who used to misbehave and also abuse him. Children acquire adab from their parents, students from their teachers, the young from the elders. So, if we want to teach good manners to our kids, We have to be their ideal of good manners. Because there is no use in teaching good manners by shouting or yelling at them.

Abu Hurairah (RA) said that Rasulullah (SAW) said, “If one has good manners, one may attain the same level of merit as those who spend their nights in prayer.

— Al-Bukhari

4. SLEEPING HABITS:

It is important to evaluate our sleeping habits besides our eating habits in order to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Families must stick to a routine of sleeping where members get enough good night’s sleep. Also we must lessen the use of electronic gadgets like T.V , Smartphones, Tablets, PlayStation, etc. before bedtime. One who has enough sleep at night will be productive all day long.

Al-Bara’ bin ‘Azib (May Allah be pleased with them) reported:
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) directed me thus: “Whenever you go to bed, perform Wudu’ as you do for Salat then (before sleeping) recite: ‘O Allah! I have submitted myself to You, I have turned myself to You, committed my affairs to You and sought Your refuge for protection out of desire for You and fear of You (expecting Your reward and fearing Your punishment). There is no refuge and no place of safety from You but with You. I believe in the Book You have revealed and in the Prophet (ﷺ) You have sent.”‘ Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) added: “If anyone recites these words and dies during the night, he will die on the true Deen, and if he remains alive till the morning, he will obtain good. And make this supplication your last words (before sleeping).”

— Al-Bukhari and Muslim

5. SMILE:

Prophet (S.A.W) used to smile and greet everyone with peace. Even though it’s a small gesture of being polite, it really lets people to maintaining good relations. So why not implement out prophet’s sunnah by smiling and greeting peace to people. It has become a very important in these days where racism, hatred, and islamophobia are at its peak.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “When you smile to your brother’s face, it is charity.”

— Sunan al-Tirmidhî (1879)

Abd Allah b. al-Hârith said: “I have never seen anyone more in the habit of smiling than Allah’s Messenger.

— Sunan al-Tirmidhî (3574)

6. MAINTAIN PROPER HYGIENE:

As Muslims, We have to pray salah five times a day. But one can’t pray unless he is clean. So we have to maintain proper hygiene by keeping ourselves clean and tidy. We have to teach our children how to keep themselves clean and to practice to keep one’s surroundings tidy.

Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
“Whoever takes a bath on a Friday and does it well, and purifies himself and does it well, and puts on his best clothes, and puts on whatever Allah decrees for him of the perfume of his family, then comes to the mosque and does not engage in idle talk or separate (pushing between) two people; he will be forgiven for (his sins) between that day and the previous Friday.”

— Ibn Majah and authenticated by Al-Albani

We don’t have to force ourselves or our kids to follow rules but practice it persistently to make it a habit in our lifestyle. May Allah sub hana hu wa ta’ala grant us hidayah to walk on the blessed path of Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihi wa salam.

About the Author

Ayesha Mazhar is a mother of two and a writer by passion. Though she does not have a blog of her own, she has written articles for other websites as a guest blogger. You can reach Sr. Ayesha at Ayesha.mazhar572@gmail.com

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